Why So Many Church Staffers Are Unhappy: Generations

When dealing with the subject of unhappy, frustrated and discontented church staffs, the gigantic elephant that’s almost always in the room is their relationship with their senior pastor or other high level leadership that may be over them.


Now before we take one more tiny step, let’s be super clear that we are not and will not be bashing senior pastors. So if you’re a bitter former staffer and you’ve been waiting for someone to take a shot at these guys for you, you’re looking in the wrong place ’cause homey don’t play that. I know there are some pastors out there who are real jerks, but I believe with all my heart that the VAST majority of pastors are good people who have the same struggles and issues as the rest of us and they are faithfully doing their best and learning as they go. The same applies to all of the staffers as well, you’ve got some bad eggs, but the vast majority are not. So in the spirit of ‘learning’, let’s talk about some of the factors that contribute to the breakdown between senior leaders and staffers. Specifically, let’s talk about the difference in generations.

‘Somebody’ Isn’t Going To Communicate Your Need For You

This is a guest post from my great friend Casey Graham. Casey is the CEO and founder of The Rocket Company. His book, Fundraising Rocket, can be found online at Amazon.com and fundraisingrocket.com.


When natural disasters strike, I get a lot of messages. People text me, tweet me, Facebook me, email me, etc. At some point in the message or conversation, I inevitably read this phrase: “Somebody should raise money for these people in need.”

Honestly, I think most people are hoping that I’ll raise the money. And I’m okay with that. I feel honored that people think of me when they become aware of big needs. But for a lot of reasons, it’s not always possible. So, I typically respond with a short and simple question:

Why don’t YOU raise the money?

Brian Dodd Interviews Me About Communication

A few weeks ago Brian Dodd and I set up an opportunity to interview each other for our respective blogs. It was a blast and the traffic for each one was awesome! To see me interviewing Brian simply scroll down the page and check out the video. Huge insights from him on the relationship between communication and leadership. As an EXTRA, if you didn’t happen to catch it on his blog, here is the interview Brian did with me on communication. I hope you might find something in this that is helpful to you and your organization.

How To Avoid Big Event Fall Out

I love BIG events! Easter. Christmas. A new building project. A big vision launch. These are exciting times in the life of any church. Tons of energy, focus and resources are invested. Everyone is on the same page. You can feel the momentum growing daily. There’s a buzz, an electricity in the air.


And then it’s over. You bask in the glow of reflection – ‘man that was awesome’, but after a couple of weeks, you feel it slipping away. It’s almost a funk. A depression. People don’t know what to do. Excitement – waned. Buzz – killed. Momentum – not so much.  How did we get here so fast? What happened to all of that momentum? How do we avoid this fall out?